Laura

Personality Pet Peeves

Daily writing prompt
What personality trait in people raises a red flag with you?
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🚩 People who brag about how “nice” and “honest” they are. (Usually anything but)

🚩 People who always have a problem. (Despite the fact that they live in modern society/are taken care of/have nice things, etc)

🚩 People who always complain everyone is against or out to get them. (Believe it or not, not that many people care about what goes on in your day to day, they are focused on themselves, usually)

🚩 People who wallow in self-pity when there’s a solution. (It’s ok to feel sad, depressed, angry, mad, or any other negative emotion. The key is to not stay there)

She’s wearing her red flag, apparently 🚩

🚩 People who allow their past to define them. (It may be hard, it can cause trauma, it can be difficult to see the light, healing takes time, yes, but it doesn’t have to be the only defining factor)

🚩 People who are overly positive all the time. (Whatcha hidin’?)

🚩 People who go out of their way to show how “righteous” and “good” they are. (See number one – also, no one is perfect. We are all perfectly flawed)

🚩 People who brag about their kindness to others. (Again, number one – and if it is an altruistic reason, the point is just to do it, and keep silent, correct?)

🚩 People who want recognition for doing squat. (It takes hard work, not everything handed to you on a silver platter)

🚩 Know-it-alls. (There’s always something more to learn)

🚩 Fake. (So many people will agree, but so many people are. People know when you’re disingenuous)

🚩 Idea thieves. (While we’re on the subject of fake. People who steal ideas and then claim them to be their own. Lol 😆 bye) 👋

🚩 Passive-aggressive. (Miss me with that shit, please – say what you mean, and mean it. Prefer you to be more bluntly honest than anything, but also expect the same in return!)

🚩 People who use their mental illness to explain away all their bad behavior (Mental illness is real – but it’s also important to take responsibility for things you say/do that may affect others negatively. It’s part of being an adult.)

🚩 People who have suffered harder, longer, or endured more than you have. (We all have our hardships. Don’t use or wear yours as a badge of honor)

Finally:

Too clingy, too quick? Always a bad sign

🚩 People who try to get to know you/get close to you too quickly/insert their lives into yours. (This always puts my hackles up. I’ve often found that people who are like this, have some weird ulterior motives – either they want something of yours, or there’s something they’re looking to gain.)


Bonus:

🚩 “Me too!” (No, not what you’re thinking. These types of people – you can’t say anything without them saying, “oh yes, I can relate, I know just how you feel- I’ve also had this, this, and this happen to me!”)

When you can’t say anything without them saying they also suffered “just like you” except it’s way worse 🙄

Don’t get me wrong, this is how we connect with one another. By relating. But you see some people who do it all.the.time. Some people can’t have a simple conversation without inserting themselves into it. Ugh! 😫

✅ Because I don’t feel like leaving this off on a negative note, here’s some personality traits I love: people who are authentic, dark humor, humor in general, people who can take a joke, understanding, no nonsense, genuinely kind without expecting something in return, go with the flow, blunt, calm energy, chaotic good, people who are straight forward.

Also, if you love coffee. ☕️

Eww, this wasn’t supposed to be so “list of things” ish, nor quite so long! I appreciate you immensely if you made it this far!

Happy Manic Monday!

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  4. So many things I start to yell “YES” at, but then feel unsure about my own tendencies. 🙂

    There’s a manager at my job who is 100% that person who has a one-up story for everything, love bombs and basically has all kinds of emotional behaviors I find very difficult to be around, but at the same time, she’s one of the smartest and hard-working people I’ve met. When taking care of herself, she’s such an interesting person. She’s a good example of someone I admire in a way, but can’t be too close to. Just seems so much contradictory ground.

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    • Ahhh I don’t think you encompass any of these traits!! lol 😂 you shouldn’t feel unsure, at least…how I view you anyways 😊 I feel you on the manager – the one upping is so aggravating. It’s like people who get engaged at other people’s weddings or some kind of equivalent to that. The over emotional behavior is definitely something I can’t deal with. I can be fiery and stuff but it’s usually after being pushed too far – when you have people who flip flop and all over the place at the drop of a hat it can make it very exhausting. I get what you mean though of course 😊 they probably mean well, if only they could mind themselves

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      • >whew< 🙂

        Exhausting indeed. It can feel little like watching a person playing a racket ball game with themself. There's no real point in trying to actually converse, yet one goes through the motions to keep up in the moment.

        Fiery and fierce = Laura. 😀

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  5. Coffee… Mmmm.

    All great red flags. I might even list more than a few of those on my own list (read: most of them). Especially the whole “I’m a nice guy/gal…” routine. That one always makes me keep an eye on those folks. I don’t trust that stance at all when someone assumes it. “Don’t tell me, let me decide for myself,” is what i want to tell them.

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    • Yeah! The “nice” thing drives me absolutely insane. Suffered harder and “one up” really gets on my nerves. Those people always tend to have a problem and need to be validated constantly. It’s exhausting. I agree you need to watch them 👀
      And yeah – let me have my own assessment of you. Don’t tell me. Feel that.

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      • Yep. It’s like:

        “Dude(tte), we’ve all had our problems. I’m not here to compare notes and decide who gets the prize for having had it worse. If that’s the case, fine, you win. Now… can we get on with it?” *

        😀

        *Things I wish I was bold enough to say instead of just think in my head.

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  7. 💯 those are basically all my red flags too

    And “oh yes, I can relate, I know just how you feel- I’ve also had this, this, and this happen to me!” is especially relevant in health care or EMS

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    • Haha! Too many, I know lol 😂 I started writing it a few days ago and kept going. 🤣 it is what it is I guess! 🙏 ☕️ have a lovely start to your week, Sia 🤗

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    • Ahhh nice!! A fine tea indeed! I don’t think I’ve heard of some of the teas you’ve mentioned, so will have to take a look 😊 something new! And that makes sense – acidic is no good

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    • Solitude is really the answer. I know, this list was too long 😆 sorry Michele, I have to still read the piece you sent me regarding the pay for teachers vs athletes. This week has been a bit dizzying so far 😆 it’s still in my mind though! Glad you like the graphics 😊 always appreciated 🙏 💕

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      • Your writing and creative graphics are always appreciated, yes! 😃 I did not consider it “too long” – your list was engaging and some of the graphics (“pay attention to me”) made me laugh. 👍🏻 No need to apologize – whenever you have a chance to read the football post, I look forward to your thoughts. Thanks, Laura and hope things are less dizzy. 🧘🏻‍♀️

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  22. so basically, summed up…people and people and then people again🤭😋

    I too, like people who love coffee…😁

    (and I hope this comes through…for some reason posts today are giving me an invalid bla bla story when I try to comment 🤦‍♀️)

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  25. My only “problem” with being “me too” is that for a LONG time, I never was a me too. I was always the listener, never the me too. Then when those “friends” decided they didn’t like me becoming a…not a me too…but this is me now…I realised how much they were always just “me”…If that makes sense?

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