Laura

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Share a lesson you wish you had learned earlier in life.
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Detachment.

To jobs.

To circumstances.

To situations.

To people.

Why?

All the attachments to all the things can wear you down

It’s not to say to be a soulless, uncaring shell of self. People often take β€œdetachment” way too far in the opposite direction or think of it as β€œnot caring.”

That’s not it, at all. You can care. A lot, even.

But – If you’re too attached, and that thing, person, circumstance, job, etc (whatever it may be) isn’t showing the same concern or care back, then it’s time to detach.

Cutting the cords of attachment – sometimes difficult, but necessary

Often the energy flows much better.

Ever notice how things fall into place after you’ve stopped worrying about it so much?

Want that one thing, so bad? Spend energy and hours obsessing over it?

Nope.

Affirm it is yours.

Then release.

You’ve let it go, you’ve let it flow.

Thanks for attending my mini manifestation class! πŸ˜† But seriously, if it is meant for you – it will be. Take a deep breath, and let it go.

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    • It’s hard, but so important for our sanity πŸ™ I’m glad you’re learning it, because it feels so much better when you don’t worry or stress so much, not easy at all 😊 I feel you on the expectations! (Realistic, right?) haha πŸ˜†

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  7. Detachment – That word !!! I’m yet to understand and learn how to detach Dance from a Dancer, questions from answers and feelings from the heart. Having said that I do know that attachments only hurt because eventually all comes to an end. Thank you for sharing this post ❣️

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    • I get it, Celina 😊 it takes a long time to learn how to detach from situations and other things and I still struggle with it at times. It’s not to say you can’t still have the feelings or love or whatever it is you’re feeling, but if you aren’t receiving the same in return, you can’t force whatever thing or situation it is. It’s hard but necessary. ❀️

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    • Thank you Tash 😊 I didn’t even think of that, but you’re right. I hope I’m going in the right direction πŸ˜† so often I feel like I’m taking 2 steps forward and 1 back haha

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      • A net gain is a reflected gain, I think. I disagree with total detachment, as there is potential to become insular, but I find myself holding onto a few attachments that I would die for. Perhaps unhealthily so.

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      • Oh, I get it. Something’s and people we’ll always be attached to. I’ve lived kinda a nomadic lifestyle all my life, going from one place to the next, so I’ve never really had much of an attachment to things or jobs. People – a different story. It can be hard sometimes. I get you on not β€œtotal detachment”

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      • I am a little paradoxical β€” I travel a lot, and so tend to carry familiar and functional keepsakes with me a lot of time. On the other hand, I have a house where I hoard things, like my music collection. It affords the permanence that I do not allow myself.

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    • Thanks Jay! 😊 so true and appreciated πŸ™ I like the way you put it, only can you have the power to flow and not allow things to weigh you down. 😊 hope your week is starting out well! β˜•οΈ

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      • You are very welcome Laura😊. Glad you appreciated it. Yes, my week is going well thank you, I hope yours is too! Cheers to flowing down the corridor of life, & not bouncing off too many wallsβ˜•πŸ™.

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  20. I can totally understand where you are coming from. Sometimes you have to forcibly detach yourself and then, hopefully, over time, it does become natural. Affirm and let it go! I had so much trouble when I first started to learn to detach. It was mostly because though, I think, I hadn’t done anything wrong, but it was just never going to get any better. Its the pain after I detached that I struggled with.

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    • I know what you mean! I definitely can feel where you’re coming from. It’s hard to just breathe, just be, and let it go. You often do think β€œI haven’t done anything wrong so why isn’t it working out?” Or that you’ve done everything you could to make things shift in your favor. It takes time. It does take a lot of patience too. And often we take a step back. The pain is often no joke when we wanted a specific job or a house or whathaveyou, but honestly…usually there’s something better or more suited for us. Thanks for your comment! 😊 I hope you have a great day πŸ™

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  21. Lots of work friends over the years that I’ve tried to keep up with after life moves us on (sometimes i do just let them go, if we seemed only situational friends), and with most there has come some point where I think “How many times have I reached out?” Then I leave it in their hands. I try to remember this when I get busy and haven’t checked in on people, too. But it took a surprisingly long time to be willing to let go rather than feeling rejected or guilty. Great little post, Laura!

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    • Oh, I get it. Definitely. I’ve tried to keep up friendships too but then sometimes you’re the only one putting in work. Sometimes they serve a purpose and it’s time to let go. It’s hard, though! But sometimes we do have a connection with people and then it clicks right back 😊 I’m glad you liked it. I’m sorry though you felt rejected or guilty! ☹️ I’m sure it wasn’t your fault, at all! ❀️

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  22. Well said, Laura!🌟 Detachment isn’t about not caring, it’s about freeing up energy for things that truly matter. And, It’s trueβ€”sometimes when we let go and stop stressing, things just start to fall into place. Thanks for sharing this!πŸ€—πŸ’–

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    • You said it so succinctly in this comment! πŸ™ Thank you Sia – freeing up the space, to allow things to flow through. It does really seem to help! And you’re welcome! Have a great upcoming week! 😊 πŸ’• πŸ€—

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  25. I couldn’t agree more!!! I’m trying to teach my own mother how important it is to detach from certain things or people, and it’s like finding a needle in a haystack. She cares too much about people who don’t show enough care or concern for her. This is a great post and reminder.

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    • Thank you Shel for your kind words πŸ™ yes, it’s even harder when we see our loved ones giving their all to something or someone and that circumstance is not in our favor. You are kind to try and help your mother in this way 😊

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      • I went through it with my ex. I had to learn to let him go as much as I wanted to help him change his life and his ways. I am at so much more peace now that he’s out of my life. πŸ™‚

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