Describe a positive thing a family member has done for you.
Not sure my answer will be the warmest or the fuzziest, unfortunately.
But the answer is leave. The best thing they could’ve ever done was leave. Cut contact, cut ties, respect my space and boundaries for wanting to have a normal life.
“Normal” life…ha, ha, ha.
Sometimes estrangement is the only answer to those types of relationships.
It was hard at the time. It’s still hard and you can still love the person with all your heart, it’s just better off in the long run sometimes. You never know for sure if you’re making the right decision, but something tells you in your gut it’s better this way.
Healthier.
But not easy.
It’s these unfortunate painful moments and memories which often lead us into becoming a better person, but damn if it doesn’t tear at the heart.
I never want to cause undue pain or suffering to another.
In contrast, I prefer also not to have to endure pain and suffering at the hands of another.
I didn’t have a choice at the time.
My final choice…however, was to be free.
And I have no regrets.
Black Moon Lilith 🌙 
Cutting the cord on a bad relationship is never easy, and I don’t think you ever stop thinking about it or wondering what might have been. That doesn’t mean it’s the wrong decision.
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Oh that’s very true. Also the above applies to several different types of relationships with people I’ve experienced throughout life. Thankfully, I don’t think about it as much as I used to anymore. 😊 it’s hard when they’re your family but you begin to accept it. I’m thankful I have come this far in healing.
Definitely not the wrong decision, at all. 😊 thank you as always for your comment and I hope your week is starting out well!
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Cutting out cancers can be painful, but ultimately worth it.
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Such a good way to put it! And yes, very, very worth it
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I admire your edge and resilience, because it isn’t easy to hold both realities at once: that 1) there is love and 2) that your life is better without that/those person(s) in it. I keep trying to develop the edge and it isn’t really there yet. When I see that glint of the sword is probably when I’ll know therapy as worked. lol
I wish you an abundance of loving and genuine people in your life!
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Thank you! I wish you the very same, I think we both deserve it 😊
Yes, this is especially true of the relationship I share with my mother. It’s hard, but it’s the only way I can accept it now. It takes time, for sure. I’m not saying there aren’t days where there is some resentment, but it’s gotten so much better. ❤️ and I haven’t done much therapy, although I probably should one day lol…hope your day is going well.
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Strength to strength, as they say. ❤
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Laura ❤ … We share this sadly and I can’t tell you how many times a day I doubt my decisions but have to choose living! You are wise beyond your years! Hope you have a happy, healthy, and harmonious week love ~ 🙂
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Same to you! Hard to know this is the case for such a lovely being as yourself, but it makes us stronger in the long run. ❤️ to you and enjoy your week 😊
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Yes, distance is always good. The farther the better … like having the Atlantic Ocean separation. Oops 😅
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😆 😂 🤣 that’s a good one! Love it. Yeah, I’d say that would be preferable
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What is “normal” anyway?
I’m glad things are better for you now. Sometimes separation is the only way for things to improve because some relationships are just too messed up and can’t be fixed. Especially if one person can’t see the problem or flat out refuses to. It’s poison you don’t need.
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Good way to put it! And thank you 😊 that’s very true, poison which can sicken you mentally, physically, spiritually. Hope all is well with you! 😊
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