Laura

Best of Friends

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What quality do you value most in a friend?
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I’m an INFJ, and even though we’re known for being some of the more “outgoing” of the introvert personality types, I’m still very much someone who needs to be in solitude to recharge my batteries after a lot of interaction/energy exchange.

The best of friends 🥰

So, I’ve always kept my smaller friend groups pretty tight and close-knit if I can, simply because I need people to understand that I’m not interested in going to the bar always on a Saturday night to do karaoke (although, I do love karaoke) because I also work in a field that is mentally taxing and very energetically draining to begin with.

I absolutely abhor superficial connections, but let’s be real – we all have them because it’s life and we have to get by. I’m not big on useless small talk chitchat, but I can do it, if needed.

Heh…


Anyways, I’m sure some of the more obvious answers apply here too. Honesty, of course. I get so annoyed when people lie especially over dumb stuff, but I think so does everyone. Loyalty, obviously is a big one, and trust. Especially if we work together, I have to know a nurse I’m working with is one I can trust because shit can go sideways pretty fast. And I’ve met a good bit of decent friends from nursing who want the same respect in return.

Well, you asked, didn’t you?


That’s another thing – respectful. As I am to you, and as you should be to me. But I also guess that goes up with what I mentioned previously, about understanding if I don’t want to be extroverted for the night, day, week, or whatever. Respect of boundaries is important for all types of relationships (especially if you have a very enmeshed family) but even friendships too.

Whatever…it seemed to fit

I’m very quick to drop toxic friendships. I didn’t used to be, but my “give a fuck” filter has flown the coop long ago, and I don’t usually make a hasty decision, but my tolerance for any kind of fuckery or mind-games (even among friends) is long gone. Maturity, please. I made a post awhile back that some people haven’t seemed to have matured beyond high school, and this is still true for some.

Hah…these Libra memes are perfect, sometimes

Finally. Please be funny. I love humor, even stupid humor. Fart jokes, I’m not above it, at all. Talking to someone who is bland, boring, like watching paint dry is enough to give me that imprisoned feeling I hate. Be a little animated! You don’t have to be too much, and if you’re not funny, it’s OK. Please appreciate some humor, at least. And constant pessimism is also a no. Don’t drag the entire world down with you, get it figured out and then rejoin the conversation at that point.

I just love Catwoman


It’s not to say I’m uncaring, or unfeeling. I’ll help you out with any problem you have! I just find people use any excuse nowadays to have an issue or be offended by something, and well…the world is already difficult enough as it is.

Oh, well…

That being said, I love all the friendships and connections I’ve cultivated here, and even though the platform and its antics can get on my nerves at times, I’m still infinitely blessed to know all of you wonderful people.

Thanks for making my day better! It is always appreciated. 😊

A post with a bit of yammering and too many memes. Oh well.

It’s 7:24AM and my relief is still not here.

The rage is building… 😇

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  2. Wow, I can totally relate to valuing deep connections and needing time to recharge! It’s so important to have friends who respect your boundaries and understand your need for solitude. Also, humor is definitely a must—life’s too short not to laugh, right?

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    • Awww thanks, Alice! 😊 Glad I found you, too! I agree, WP isn’t perfect at all (with all its glitches!) but SM definitely can have so much more aggravation attached to it.

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  5. Another INFJ is here and I also don’t party 😀
    I admire your mature approach to friendship and strong sense of boundaries ❤ I should learn from you!
    Sense of humor is definitely important, but as the Earth sign I can be patient with somber, monotonous types actually, but should I? It is another question.
    Thank you so much for the wonderful connection we share ❤ It is an honor for me 🙂

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    • Sense of humor is always great! It’s not to say I don’t find value from someone who may be a bit somber, not at all, just moreso if they don’t appreciate any type of humor and something is always wrong, and nothing can ever make them feel well.
      Because then I am always left scratching my head, what can I do for this person? Haha. 🤣
      And you are most welcome, i appreciate the wonderful connection we share, as well ❤️ and all your support, always! 😊 an honor for me, too! 🙏

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    • Ahhh, so glad you liked them 😆 💕and thank you!! Seems like there’s a lot of INFJs on this post here, haha! We definitely can need our time to ourselves, so we can fully be present when the interaction comes 😇

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  8. I relate a lot to point about those who are too serious or easily offended. It was a lot to keep up with when I had a peer group mostly of those types. While I’m not the type to go out to wild parties, I’m also fond of board games and humor… and spaces that are all studious serious can get boring. The constant pessimism is worse, though. At times it feels like you’re being told to feel guilty just for being happy.

    Another value of mind is honesty. I’m closer with rude people who tell me when I’ve messed up than polite people who always tell me I’m perfect. I want to know I can trust compliments, and I can’t if they’re given just to butter me up.

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    • You are very wise!! Glad to know some of that resonates with you, I definitely can’t get on board with everyone being upset at the littlest thing nowadays. Of course you don’t want to be outright rude or mean, but a little stiff upper lip is needed sometimes to grow character and have a backbone, or else you just won’t make it in the world. 😊
      I agree, the constant pessimism is no fun and something that can make me run fast, lol 😂

      Oh, I always say I’d rather deal with someone who is more abrasive and totally honest (because that’s how I can be sometimes) than someone who is sweet and nice and just telling you what you want to hear. Serves no purpose.
      😊 thanks for sharing your views here. I know you mention often you’re younger, so if you have these views early in life, I do think you’ll make it quite far, very successfully!

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  9. Seriously cute meows! Hilarious memes! And yes, we need more humor, but I can laugh at myself … I’ve got years of content (lol) ~ Wishing you an easy breezy night, Laura <3! P.s. I would love to go to karaoke with you … we’ll take down the house! 🙂

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    • Haha, glad you like them 🐈🐈‍⬛ 🥰 I definitely feel you on the laughing at your own self, I always say laughter is the best medicine. Hope you have a cool, calm, and collected evening as well, and YESSSS let’s do it!! Karaoke this Saturday out by the pool under the moonlight! ❤️

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  10. I love all the memes! Excellently situated! Made me wonder what I’d find if I looked up INTJ, if I am right now. The last two letters change with me, which I feel I can learn from if I retake the test. When I’m FJ or TP, I’m usually in a more open space than when I’m TJ, but that’s where I was the last time I checked 🙂 LOL sorry. Anyway, I found the memes fun.

    Also, I had to stop and think a while about the negativity thing, because for me it matters more what the setting is, and whether it’s a constant. I want friends to confide and vent, but have definitely had friendships where that took over everything else, so I’d see a text and feel myself get sort of fortified to be able to shake it off afterward.

    Thank you for your always genuine posts!

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    • That’s so funny you say that, I’ve taken the test over a few times in my life and sometimes get the TJ or TP, but mostly have always leaned towards or gotten the FJ, haha. 😆 So now I just accept that, the memes are funny, I’ll have to look at the INTJ ones!
      Also, I totally get what you’re saying. I want people to feel free to vent and talk! It’s when no solutions are found and it’s just a constant stream of negativity, because then it just becomes impossible to know how to help this person. But totally get that aspect of everything 😊

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